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Additional Note : Marvel should now start to conceptualize their first female superhero movie. Someone from the X-Men perhaps?
19 May 2017
Dear Define Don,
Hello! I find it weird that I am actually asking this to you. I am Gino 27 years old and currently working as a Med rep in Ortigas. Please don’t publish my real name. I’ve been having these questions for about years now. It all started when I became friends with Dustin, another med rep from our company. Most of the people from our area are aware that Dustin is not a straight guy. It’s just that no one would dare to ask him about his sexuality. We knew each other for 5 years already since we were 1 wave away from each other. He’s from Wave 12 and I’m from Wave 11. We would normally see each other during area meetings or outings. Just last 2015, we attended a seminar together, he talked to me and that started our close friendship. Suddenly, he’ll message me on Facebook, sometimes he will use the office email to have a conversation with me. We would have lunch together if we’re in the same area. This went on for months, then there’s this one night our area had a party and we all got drunk. He asked me if I could join him in his car to sleep for a bit. Inside the car, we talked about our personal lives. I’ve shared to him the stories of my family and my last relationship, he was just listening. When I thought he was asleep, I told him I like him. At first he didn’t say anything. I repeat it and he said “Yeah, I know…”. He looked at me then I kissed him, he didn’t stop me then we went back to the party. We didn’t talk for 4 days after that kissing thing. When we started taking again, it’s as if nothing happened. I would try to ignore his messages and calls but he’s really persistent. Honestly, I could tell with his actions that he likes me too but what do you think is the reason why he can’t say it? What do you think is the problem with Dustin? This is really weird but I can’t wait for your thoughts on this.
Hey Gino! Thank you for sharing your story. Just so you know, your story is the first ever #AskLyndon entry. It’s 2 months late though, I haven’t checked my email until today. Sorry.
Ok, this is a very difficult situation to be in. I mean, it’s like reading between not so clear lines. Good thing and Bad thing, let’s start with the good thing.
We should always trust our instincts because most of the time we are correct. So if you feel that Dustin likes you too, there’s a big possibility that he really likes you. The bad thing is that there is a small percentage that he is just a “pa-fall” guy, there are lots of people like them out there. If you are to ask me, Yes, I can see that he likes you also. There might be some things that stopping him to admit his feelings for you. First, you’ve mentioned that he is a closet gay. That is one of the most stressful feelings ever. He might be having troubles with his family and coming out of the closet will just add more stress. Second, he might be the type of person who is not yet ready to commit. He might be enjoying his journey being single. Third, He might experienced a bad past relationship and he is just being careful this time. Fourth, he might be in a relationship now and he just wants to be friends with you. And lastly, he might just be waiting for the right time. Remember: Timing is everything.
Maybe you can try these things.
At the end of the day, it’s still you who will decide what to do in this episode of your life. If ever you guys will end up together I know you would be happy, if not, then learn from this experience and make sure not to commit the same mistake again in the future.
So there, I hope I’ve helped you with your question and not confuse you even more. By the way, I picked a song for you. 🙂 This song suits your story.
Always follow your heart,
Hi Guys! If you’re following me on Instagram, maybe you’ve noticed that I posted something about #Ask Lyndon last April 2017 (For those who are not yet following me, what are you waiting for? Follow : @lyndonmartin both on Instagram and Twitter).
You might be thinking what got in to me and I opened my Blog for this kind of stuff. Oh well, ever since I was a kid, when people go to me and ask for my idea, opinion or even solution from the most simple to the most complex things, there’s a different sense of fulfillment within me. You might find it weird but i feel it’s my way of touching their lives (cricket sound). Lol.
Anyway, this portion of my blog is basically for me to answer all your questions. It could be the trend, food, destination, tips in traveling or personal problems/issues. it could be a one question, one answer type or the “LOVE NOTES ala Joe D’ Mango” type. You can even ask me the most non-sense question and I will try to answer everything.
You may reach me through:
Twitter : @lyndonmartin
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Email : firstname.lastname@example.org
Looking forward to help you,
Maja Salvador & Paulo Avelino
The Best of 2016.
This is the first time that I’ll be doing this again after 5 years. The last time I made an entry like this was during the first anniversary of my Tumblr in 2012. This is just my opinion, if you feel like there are better options or you disagree with my choices, make your own blog instead. Just kiddin’.
Let’s name some of the best in 2016.
Movie of the Year : Captain America : Civil War
It has a worldwide gross of $1.15B. Produced by Marvel Studios and distributed by Walt Disney Studios Motion Picture. It is the third installment of the Captain America movies. The first one was Captain America : The First Avenger (2012) followed by Captain America : The Winter Soldier (2014). I don’t wanna sound biased just because Captain America is one of my favorite Marvel characters. I did my research and this movie is the highest grossing movie of 2016 and 12th highest grossing movie of all time.
I believe that this scene sealed the deal. Lol.
Source : Youtube – Animation & Superheroes Movie – L Picture
Song of the Year : Closer by The Chainsmokers
I’m pretty sure that you’ve heard this song or played this song countless times. This song spent 11 weeks on top of the Billboard Hot 100. This is Chainsmokers’ third top 10 single next to Roses and Don’t let me down. It spent 28 weeks in the top 10 since it’s debut on August 2016.
Source : Youtube – ChainsmokersVEVO
Album of the Year : 25 (Adele)
Well, it is still Adele. The last time I made a list was in 2012 and it was Adele’s 21 album that I declared album of the year. And she did it again for 2016. It was actually released in the last quarter of 2015 but who cares, right? The first day sales in US was $1.4 million.
Breakthrough TV Series of the Year ( International ) : Stranger Things
Released on Netflix last July 2016. Set in the 1980’s, the story revolves around the investigation of the missing young boy. There were 8 episodes for the pilot season. The acting, setting and soundtrack were all praised by the netizens and there was an instant fandom for this TV series. It was renewed for another season by Netflix.
Breakthrough TV Series of the Year ( Local ) : Encantadia 2016
Many of us are aware that this is not the first time that Encantadia aired in the Philippines. The original Encantadia was released May 2005. This is a requel ( retelling / sequel ) of the most watched fantasy TV show in the Philippines. When the new cast was announced, many fans were disappointed and thought that this will not be a hit compared to the original but the ratings and the awards proved otherwise. Encantadia lived up to the hype and success of the original version.
Artist of the Year : Ariana Grande
With the release of her third album, guest role in Scream Queens and her performance in Hairspray Live!, Ari is indeed the It girl of 2016. No more questions asked.
Dance Craze of the Year ( Local ) : Fetty Wap Dance
Source : Youtube – Peenoys Gaming
The song is actually Nobody’s Better by Z feat. Fetty Wap. It was performed by one of the best dance groups in the Philippines, Rockwell. With countless versions performed by local celebrities and Pinoys all around the globe, this is really the dance craze of the year. Even yours truly danced this.
And that ends my best list for 2016.
Until next year,
I’ve been thinking of a perfect Valentine’s day entry since one of my new year’s resolutions for this blog is to be updated. And the perfect time to discuss this topic is on the eve of the hearts’ day.
Love. Lust. Infatuation. We are often confused with these three states. Do I really love that person? Is it just lust? Am I infatuated? All these and more.
Let us try to differentiate them from one another by sharing to you some of my friends’ stories.
Noun. A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
I’ve been in hanging-out with this person for 3 years already. It all started with a small talk. Next thing I know, my day is not complete without a glimpse of him. We were inseparable until this new employee entered the picture. LOVE started to change. Our usual breakfast and lunch together are now group breaks. Until one day, LOVE didn’t invite me for lunch. To make it worse, guess what? LOVE is having lunch with the new employee. That day I realized, I am just the only one who thought that the friendship is something special. I started ignoring LOVE and it went on for years. Until last year, I don’t know why all of a sudden we became closer than before. I’m afraid we might end up hating each other if I will insist with the idea that we can be more than friends. What should I do? I don’t want us to fall apart. Ever. – Lover Boy.
Lover Boy, it might be a friendship kind of love or a sibling kind of love or a romantic kind of love. Yes, it is love. Looks like this is the best kind of love, where in you give and expect nothing in return. The fact that you show affection and concern towards “LOVE”, it is indeed the crazy little thing called love. Did you even notice how many “loves” I mentioned? Lol. :p
Noun. Intense or uncontrolled sexual desire or appetite.
I started dating LUST 3 months ago. I know you will agree with me that the getting to know each other stage is the best part of dating. LUST will text me everyday. He will wake me up by calling my mobile phone every morning. It went on for a month and I must admit, I really thought that LUST is the person I’ve been praying for. One night, LUST invited me to his condo unit for a movie marathon. I know that something will happen and I felt that I am ready for that moment. In the middle of the movie, LUST started kissing me and stuff. After that night, LUST started to change. The calls and texts became seldom. Then LUST invited me for a sleepover and started doing things with me again. I don’t know why I suddenly feel that he only wants “THAT” to happen. I stopped LUST and drove myself home. After that night, there were no phone calls and text messages anymore. It’s been 4 weeks already and I haven’t heard anything from LUST. Help! – Lustious Malfoy.
Lustious Malfoy, obviously, brighter than the led lights, SEX is all that he wanted. The moment that he suddenly changed after the first night, you should’ve got the signal already. It’s like at first, he will let you feel that he is into you but once you take the bait, that’s the end of it. You are correct, it is just lust and you should not feel sorry that he found his way out of your world. Such a D-Bag!
Noun. Strong but not usually lasting feelings of love and attraction.
It all started in junior year. INFATUATION is the new kid in school. He is just a plain John. INFATUATION doesn’t look good at all to begin with and I actually don’t care about him. One day, while waiting for my brother, I saw him walking. I don’t know what I was thinking that time and I called him. We had a small talk and I felt something with the way INFATUATION looked at me that very moment. Days passed and nothing happened from the time we talked. I was surprised though that he greeted me on my birthday and that started our text flirting which went on for months. Then summer came and I didn’t hear from him. Senior year, it was all hi and hello and some texting. After graduation, the texting continues. And then we started hanging out. We eat lunch and have coffee together. The texting became calling. My day is literally incomplete if I don’t see INFATUATION. One night, INFATUATION told me that he likes me, I didn’t answer. All I know is that we kissed that night. Days went on and I can’t stop thinking about INFATUATION every day and every night. It came to a point that I started ignoring him just so that he will not feel that I am starting to like him. Then one day, I woke up and the happy feeling is not there anymore. We still talk and hang out but it’s totally different now. What do you think happened? – InPHATkate
InPHATkate, as I saw it, you enjoyed the attention and time that he gave you. It’s normal that we try to reciprocate the gesture but it doesn’t mean that the feeling is mutual. Maybe you were just interested with the person and then the intensity of the magic died down. It is infatuation I bet you. We seldom misinterpret this feeling with love but we are just infatuated. It’s confusing. Just enjoy the moment while it last.
Most of the time we thought that it is love but in reality, it is just lust. We thought it is just lust but it is infatuation. The best part? All along we thought it was an infatuation but it is already love. Whatever it is that we feel, as long as it makes us happy, let’s go for it. We only have one shot in this lifetime so might as well make the best out of it.
Happy Valentine’s Day, Guys!